Someone ask in a group on Facebook about what your version of an ideal partner would be. My answer was:
My ideal man is more than one man. I find different things in different people. A friendly chat with a young slim guy in a gym shower can feed my fantasies. Other people can be like old friends with a lot of shared times and history. Different people share different interests. I like having a wide variety of people available in community. At the same time, I do like living by myself. Not in isolation, but in close proximity to others who like to participate in various public things. Walking groups, dinner gatherings, political causes, dancing and being on Facebook.